Before you try and figure out what you really want out of life, you need to clean the space from things that don't even matter to you. Only after you get some sort of congruence within yourself will you be able to develop congruence with others.

The schizoid character structure is fundamentally built around responses to deep-seated terror and fear.

Emotional deprivation isn't just about a lack of feeling. It's about the complex role of defences and existential dilemmas, particularly in how they influence cognitive processing.

Covert schizoids, often described as "secret schizoids," possess a remarkable ability to blend into social settings. They excel at concealing their true feelings and present a facade that masks their internal turmoil.

The core issue that many schizoids wrestle with, consciously or unconsciously, is not the fact of having a false self, but rather - that the false and the true selves became extremely disconnected from each other. One might become an alien to one's body or needs.